Zintoni ii amawele imiphefumlo ? Uyazi njani ukuba ufumene umphefumlo wakho wamawele - okanye iwele lomlilo? Funda ngokufumana inkcazo yemiqondiso, izigaba nokunye…
Isigaba 1 sokukhula kubudlelwane bothando bokomoya: Ukuzithanda
Singasishwankathela isigaba sokuqala. Eli nqanaba limalunga nawe. Ndidinga x, kwaye le yimida yam. Ukuxhomekeka ligama eliphambili kwesi sigaba. Amadoda angamadoda, kwaye abafazi ngabasetyhini. Oku ngokwenene kuvela kwixesha elidlulileyo. Umzekelo, umfazi wayefuna ukuba mhle endodeni ukuze ayifune.
Isigaba 2 sokukhula kubudlelwane bothando bokomoya: Okunye
Isigaba 2 sibonakaliswa ngu ukuzimela. Eli nqanaba limalunga ukukhula kwabanye, Ukukhula kwehlabathi, ukwabelana, ukusebenza kunye, nokunika into yonke.
Oku kwavela kabukhali kwiminyaka yama-60s neye-70. Indoda yaba novakalelo kwaye yabasetyhini: yayineenwele ezinde, ichaza iimvakalelo zayo, yenza ukucula kunye, incoko, ukuziva iimvakalelo, ukonwabela indalo, jonga ukukhathalelwa, nxiba amacici, Zonke izinto ezazisenziwa ngabafazi rhoqo.
Umfazi naye waba yindoda. Abasetyhini abazimeleyo abenza izigqibo, babeke imida, njl. Abasetyhini bakhululwa kwaye baba nokuzithemba ngakumbi. Akusekho mfuneko yokuba bahle emadodeni: baxhalabile ngezinto ezingabalulekanga kangako, ezinje ngoxolo, imvisiswano kunye nentsebenziswano.
Inqanaba 2 yile: Uyayifuna lento, ndiyakukhathalela. Awungekhe wonwabe ngokufumana le nto uyifunayo. Kuya kufuneka ucinge nangokuba abanye bafuna ntoni na.
Kwinqanaba lesi-2, udonga lwakhiwe malunga nentliziyo yakho. Oko kuthetha ukuba awukulungelanga ukungena ngokupheleleyo kwindoda okanye kumfazi. Uyayihlonipha imida yenye. Ubomi bam buphelele, kodwa ndilahlekelwa yinto…
Isigaba 3 sokukhula kubudlelwane bothando bokomoya: Ubunye
Isigaba 3 sikwinqanaba elahluke mpela: Yintoni ebalulekileyo ukuba ndifuna ntoni (isigaba 1) kwaye ufuna ntoni (isigaba 2)? Yintoni ebalulekileyo kweli nqanaba: Yintoni ekufuneka siyenzile ukuvusa uthando ukuze sikwazi ukunika ezona ziphiwo zethu zinzulu ukuze ubuThixo buhambe ngathi? Uthando lungagobhoza njani ngokupheleleyo kuthi sonke, kwanokuba kufuneka sincame izinto esizithandayo?
Eli nqanaba lesithathu libandakanya ukukhulula imida kunye nokukhulula ukuqonda kwethu. Uyakhile iminyaka, ke kunzima ukuyiyeka. Kodwa loo nto iyimfuneko kuba into oyifunayo kukuzinikezela ngokupheleleyo kwintliziyo yomnye umntu ithathwe nguLuthando uqobo. Ulufumana phi ulonwabo ukuba uhlala kwinkonzo enkulu? Uhlala ngento enkulu.
Eli nqanaba lifuna ukuba ukuthembela kunye. Izigaba ezibini zokuqala zazimalunga nokuzithemba: enye iyayazi into oyifunayo. Kodwa ngoku sizinikela ukuba siphile ngothando olukhulu ngakumbi kunokhetho lwethu.
Eli nqanaba alikho ngokufuna uthando kunye nokukhanya, kodwa malunga umnikelo yiyo. Nika isiqu sakho esinzulu kwihlabathi. Kufuneka sikhulele oko. Kweli nqanaba, niyakuxhasana kwinjongo zomnye nomnye, ngokomoya womnye nomnye, ekuvuleni iintliziyo zomnye nomnye.
Le yinxalenye yobomi bam endiyinika umfazi wam. Unika Uthando. Oku kwenza isigaba se-3 isigaba se-Divine. Uya kuqonda ukuba yonke into iyatshintsha. Uziva: yonke into iyadlula. Umzekelo, into oyenzayo kweli hlabathi, ubudlelwane bakho Ke nika kwaye uyeke, unike, uyeke. Konke malunga nokunikezela kunye nokunikela ngezona zipho zethu zinzulu zamadoda nabasetyhini. Ubomi bakho bonke bufana nesipho kwihlabathi, nangona ngamanye amaxesha lingamkelwa.
Ukugcina isipho sakho emhlabeni kubandezeleka. Soloko unika esi sipho sobukho kuye wonke umntu.
Kwesi sigaba sesithathu, uxakekile Inika inkululeko , Uthando, kunye nobunzulu kwiqabane lakho. Awuzikhangeli. Indoda ngoku ikwangumfazi kwaye ayisayijonganga. Konke ukukhanya, yonke imilo nguwe, kukuqonda. Kunye, wena nomfazi wakho nikhululekile, niqonda ukuba nguwe. Kukukhanya kwakho, ubunzulu bakhe, kwaye akukho mahluko. Ukuqonda (ubudoda) kunye nokukhanya (ubufazi) kudityanisiwe.
Yibani kunye omnye nomnye: yekani umgama kunye numahluko. Kudala sisazana. Besisoloko sithandana. Yiba ngumntu omnye nam xa unesibindi! Ungandiniki nto engaphantsi kwentliziyo yakho. Intliziyo yakho enzulu. Kwinqanaba lesi-3, siziva ukuba asihlulwanga kwabanye abantu (kunjalo sikwinqanaba elithile).
Sithanda wonke umntu ehlabathini. Intliziyo yethu, ke ngoko, iba lilungu elibuthathaka kakhulu nelisengozini ngenxa yokuba ivakalelwa. Siphila kwindawo engaziwayo yemilingo yothando.
Kwinqanaba lesi-3, uqala ukuthembela kwiindawo zeqabane lakho ngaphezu kwakho. Ugqibelele kwenye. Uyazikhupha kwimfuno yokuphilisa ubume bakho besetyhini. Uqala ukugqibezela ngokufumana amaqabane akho ababhinqileyo ngokuthembela kuloo nto. Uba sisiqingatha sesibini ebesifuneka ukuze ugqibe.
Akukho nto inomtsalane kunomfazi kwisigaba 3. Uvumela ukukhanya kwakhe okupheleleyo kukhanye, esazi ukuba unomtsalane ngokupheleleyo: usebenzisa yena ukuvula le ndoda, ukuyivuselela kuluthando olunzulu. Akukho nto inomtsalane kunoko.
Kweli nqanaba, uziva ukuba: ndingubani? Umbukeli, ubungqina bayo yonke into. Asilogama lakho, umzimba wakho, iiseli zawo zahluke kwaphela kunyaka ngamnye, hayi ingqondo yakho, kodwa usengulomntu ukwamnye.
Ke nguwe kuphela into engatshintshiyo. Ukuzazi uqobo. Olo lwazi olungapheliyo luyindoda. Phumla (camngca, ucamngce) ngento eza ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwakho, yintoni ngoku, nokuba uyakuba yintoni emva kokufa kwakho. Ungubani malunga nobomi? Sekelwa kwinto engazange iqale kwaye engenakuphela. Zonke izenzo zakho ebomini bakho mazisekwe kwimvakalelo yokuziva kwam; Ndiyalithanda ihlabathi, ndingalunika njani olo thando kwihlabathi? Ndingayibonisa njani injongo yam ngale ndlela?
Oku kunokwenziwa ngamaxesha amiselweyo okucamngca, ukuthandaza, amaxesha okungaphazanyiswa, ukuhlala wedwa… Umzekelo, isiqingatha seyure okanye iyure ngosuku, ukunxibelelana neyona njongo yakho inzulu kwaye uqhagamshele kwakhona nomthombo wakho oyinyani. Yeka ukwenza, qala ukuziva. Ixesha elingaphezulu, iiyure ezizayo, iiveki, iinyanga, loo mthombo uya kunxibelelana kakuhle kwaye uxelele into efuna ukuyenza. Emva koko uziva unomdla. Unike konke onako.
Ingcebiso 1 -Isiseko sobudlelwane siphulaphule iimvakalelo zakho ezinzulu, endaweni yokucinga ngokungaphezulu
Ukuba ukhetha ukusondelelana, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba owasetyhini omkhethileyo akafuni ukuba yinombolo 1 ebomini bakho. Ngokwendalo ufuna ukuba ngoyena mntu ubalulekileyo ebomini bakho, kodwa hayi eyona nto ibalulekileyo.
Uyazi ukuba xa ufihla okanye ungayihoyi eyona njongo / ubomi bakho obunomdla wokumkholisa kwaye wenze inombolo yakhe ye-1, kungekudala uza kummangalela. Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kokukhanya kobomi bakho, ukukhuthazwa kwentliziyo yakho, umthombo wolonwabo lwakho… Kwaye umfazi ongenakuphila ngaphandle kwakhe. Okokugqibela kuthintele kakhulu.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakhe, ukuba zixhomekeke kuye, ukuba unokuqhubeka kuphela ukunika isipho sakho emhlabeni xa esesebomini bakho kwaye uyeke ukukunika isipho ukuba akekho ebomini bakho, uya kuziva ebuthathaka. Akafuni umntwana oxhomekeke kuye. Ufuna indoda enika isipho sayo ngokupheleleyo emhlabeni kwaye kuye kwaye isamkele ngokupheleleyo kuloo njongo ikhethiweyo. Inxalenye yale njongo. Kodwa ayigqibekanga.
Ufuna ukuziva ekhululekile, indoda emthandayo, indoda emkhetha ngaphezulu kwayo yonke eminye imithombo yabasetyhini, indoda emkhetha njengobuncwane bobomi bakhe, ozisa ukukhanya kubo bonke ubomi bakhe. Kodwa nendoda eqhubeka nokunika isipho sayo, nokuba siyanyamalala ngomso. Indoda eyonwabileyo naye kwaye yonwabe ngaphandle kwakhe, kodwa iyakhetha yena, unamandla kwaye uzele ngumnqweno, ngelixa anakho ngamandla nangokuzimisela ukunika isipho sakhe emhlabeni, kunye okanye ngaphandle kwakhe.
Luhlobo lwendoda anokuyithemba kunye nentliziyo yakhe. Indoda engazithobeliyo iimfuno zayo, kodwa enika uthando. Indoda engayikhathaleli iminqweno yentliziyo yakhe. Akazigcini nje ukugcina yena. Sisipho esiphilayo, simve, simwola, simthanda, sazi intliziyo yakhe enzulu.
Kodwa ukuba uyamshiya, angaqhubeka ngokupheleleyo. Xa eswelekile, intliziyo yakhe iya kulila kwaye ibuhlungu. Kwiinyanga kunye neenyanga, ngokubandezeleka okukhulu kunye nosizi, kodwa phakathi kolo sizi, usenokufikelela ngokupheleleyo kumthombo wobukho bakhe, kuThando oluhambisa ubomi bakhe, kunye naye okanye ngaphandle kwakhe. Kwaye emva koko unokumthemba.
Sukumenza abe kuphela, eyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Wamkele njengomntu okhethe ukuhlala naye ngokusondeleyo. Yamkele njengobutyebi ebomini bakho obukhanyayo kwaye bukunike ixabiso lobomi ngokwalo. Amandla anomtsalane akwenza wonwabe ukuvuka ecaleni kwakho kusasa, ekwenza wonwabe kukuba uphila. Kwitafile yesidlo sakusasa, apho ahleka khona kwaye akhulise intliziyo yakho. Xa ejonge emehlweni akho, phakathi kwako konke ukuxakeka kwakho, iinjongo, kunye noxinzelelo, uziva emehlweni akhe ubunzulu bokuzinikela okumangalisayo.
Ingcebiso yesi-2-Ukuzibophelela kwasekuqaleni: ukolulwa ngokwesondo kukusebenzela injongo yakho yokomoya
Ubuninzi, ukolala ngokwesini, yityeya yomtsalane phakathi kwendoda nebhinqa. Ukuba uchongwe ngobudoda bakho, yenza izigqibo, ufezekise iinjongo… ke uya kutsala umdla kuye.
Alimsulwa; kwenzeka ngokuzenzekelayo. Uya kuhlala utsalele kumandla esini ongazukuwafumana ebomini bakho bonke. Kukho ukusebenzisana: Ndifuna ukukukhonza. Iqabane lakho lifuna ukukukhonza nawe. Ufuna ukukhonza omnye komnye ukuvuleka kunye nobunzulu. Nceda ubomi bomnye nomnye buchume. Le yindlela onokuthi usinike ngayo isipho sakho emhlabeni. Oko kukuzibophelela. Yintoni injongo yakho? Yintoni injongo yolwalamano lwethu? Lwazi olona njongo lwakho. Le yiankile yakho ngokuchasene nezinto ezingaphezulu, njengokukopa.
Ubufazi ngamandla obomi. Ubudoda yinto engatshintshiyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka umve: mnike indawo yokuzisa ubuhle kunye nokukhanya ebomini bakho, umzekelo, kuba ukhetha ifenitshala. Thembela kumfazi kwiqabane lakho. Vumela ubufazi bakho kwaye ungene kumandla akho obudoda.
Ngamanye amaxesha yenye indlela ejikeleze, kwaye unokuxhomekeka kumandla akhe obudoda. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka ungenelele ngokuxhomekeke kwingqibelelo yakho. Ubudoda bunokhetho kunye nemida kuba ixabisa amaxabiso athile kubunzulu bentliziyo yayo. Ke ngoko, umntu oyindoda kufuneka ngamanye amaxesha athi kowasetyhini: Ndiyakuthanda, kwaye andinakukuvumela wenze oku kuba ndiyakuthanda. Intliziyo yam enzulu iyayiva le nto, kwaye ndifuna ukukucela ukuba uthembe intliziyo yam enzulu, yiyo loo nto sikunye.
Funda eli nqaku malungaAmandla endoda nabasetyhini,kwaye uyazi ukuba kukho isizathu esinzulu sobukho bamandla abesilisa nabasetyhini. Umfazi ofanayo okutsala kakhulu ngokwesini ikwanguloo mfazi ukhathaza wena kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakho (kwaye kungenjalo).
Xa ufuna ukugqiba umsebenzi, amandla akhe obufazi angangumqobo kuwe. Umzekelo, akazukuyiqonda into oyithethayo. Yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe kubuhlobo bakho obusondeleyo? Intsebenziswano, isini, abantwana?
Emva kwe-ejaculation ge ngamandla ye polarised, yintoni egcina nindawonye ngoko? Uthando olunzulu Uziva ngowasetyhini osecaleni kwakho ebhedini, ngaphandle kwento yokuba umnqweno wesini wokudibanisa namandla akhe uye wehla.
Ingcebiso 3 -Yamkela ukolulwa ngokwesini: Esi sisipho sakho omnye komnye
Ukwahlulahlula ngokwesondo kubalulekile: kunye, nigqibelele. Masithathe umzekelo wokuba ‘ngoku.’ Olu luphawu lobufazi. Indoda iyakwazi ukuphuma ngoku, ithathe umgama, kwaye ukusuka kuIndawo eyahluliweyo, yenza isigqibo esisengqiqweni ngokusekwe kumfanekiso omkhulu. Ithathela ingqalelo yonke imicimbi yexesha ekugwetyweni kwayo, ivumela ukuba ixole. Masithi umfazi wakhe akazange axoke ebomini bakhe kwaye uxoka ngento encinci okokuqala, angamxolela kuba angaphila ukusuka kumzuzu kwaye ajonge umfanekiso opheleleyo.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba umfazi ukwisimo sakhe sobufazi, akunamsebenzi ukuba awuhlali iminyaka elishumi. Ingxelo yakho yeminyaka eli-10 ayinamsebenzi. Akukho rekhodi yakhe. Ngu ngoku ukuvavanya. Uyaxoka ngoku, ngoku yena ngu enomsindo ngoku, kwaye akakuthembi ngoku, Nokuba ubuxokile amaxesha angama-zero kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo. Indoda iyakwazi ukuxolela iimpazamo hayi amandla obufazi kuba iyabonelela ukubonakalisa okucocekileyo.
Kwaye kulungile, kwaye enyanisweni, kuyanqweneleka! Ngokuqinisekileyo, angangena kumandla akhe obudoda ukuze akuxolele.Ngoko ke musa ukulindela umfaziukuba njengawe, kodwa Makhe abonakalise ubunzulu bengqibelelo yakho ngalo mzuzu. Sisipho sakhe eso kuwe. Ngale ndlela, unokufumana uthando olunzulu lwe-polarity, kwaye ke uyabonakalisa, umzuzu nomzuzu, ukuthembeka kwakho ukuze ukhule kwaye uyenze nzulu intliziyo yakho.
Ungamanzi, kwaye uwashukumisile amanzi, kwaye loo mibimbi iyaqhubeka kwaye iyaqhubeka nokuhambisa. Ungumfazi obonakalisa ngokuthe ngqo amanqaku akho okuphucula, kunye nobulumko bakhe obunzulu kunye neemvakalelo ngalo mzuzu, ekuphenduleni. Kodwa uphendula ngokunzulu kwisibonelelo sakho sobunzulu kunye noLuthando.
Kuwo wonke umzuzu, unethuba lokuvula okanye lokuvala intliziyo yakhe. Yiva intliziyo yakhe kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuvula intyatyambo yentliziyo yakhe, ukufumana ubukho bakho nzulu entliziyweni yakhe nasemzimbeni. Mncede ukuba azive ngobuThixo bakhe, ukuzinikela kwakhe ngokunzulu kuThixo kunye nokuzinikela kuThando, ukuze akwazi ukukunika uthando olusuka entliziyweni yakhe.
Uyakufezekisa oko ngokuziva impendulo yomfazi kumzuzu olandelayo ngoku uziphucula ngokwakho. Ngapha koko, mnike amandla: ubufazi buhlala kwindawo yamandla (ke ungaqwalaseli, njengokujonga kugxile kulwazi, ithiyori, kwizithembiso zekamva, okanye kwiminyhadala). Amandla kukuhamba, unxibelelwano, ukuchukumisa, ukwanga, ukudibana kwamehlo, njl.
Imfihlelo yokunikela ngentliziyo yakho enzulu kumfazi ayisijingisi ngexesha kodwa ngalo mzuzu. Ngamanye amaxesha unokuvula umzimba wakhe ngocingo; Ngamanye amaxesha ungayivula intliziyo yakhe ngokuhlekisa. Ngamanye amaxesha unokungena kumphefumlo wakhe ngononophelo lwamehlo. Wamkele, udanise, unyumbaze, uhleke, ubethe ngothando, mhlawumbi ukuwolana ngequbuliso, mhlawumbi ukuwolana ngothando.
Hlonipha ubufazi ngokuhlonipha ubudoda bakho. Ngaba intliziyo yakho ihlala inxibelelana naye? Ngaba izihlunu zakho zithambile? Ngaba intliziyo yakhosesichengeniendaweni yokukhuselwa? Ngaba uyakuva ukunyakaza komzimba wakhe ngokungathi uza kudanisa naye? Ngaba uyaphefumla naye? Ngaba umphefumlo wakho ugcwele? Mjonge emehlweni. Wamkele. Yiva; yenze nzulu intliziyo yakho. Uziva nzulu entliziyweni yakhe. Phefumla naye. Yiva iminqweno yakhe enzulu yentliziyo. Dibanisa iminqweno yakho enzulu yentliziyo kunye naye.
Ingcebiso 4 -Fumana iindlela ezininzi zokuhlonipha owesilisa nowasetyhini kubudlelwane bakho
Ayisiyiyo eyamadoda kuphela egqitywe yingxelo evela ebufazini: kuyafana nakowasetyhini. Umntu obhinqileyo ufunda ngokukhuthaza nothando. Ke mnike ingxelo: ‘Yitsho / yenze rhoqo! Ndifuna ukuyiva loo nto, nkosazana iphambeneyo, yiza apha uzokundanga ‘. Ibhinqa, lona, linika ingxelo ekhethekileyo kwindoda. Kodwa mnike ngokumodareyitha oko akufunayo: ukwanga, ukuphefumla, okanye enye into yoxinzelelo. Kodwa kwanele. Ndidinga indawo yam, nawe uyayifuna.
Sukuhlehlisa ukunika isipho sakho emhlabeni. Lo ngumnqweno wendoda. Phila ngokungathi usalelwe ziintsuku ezintathu zokuphila. Injongo yakho, injongo yakho, kufuneka ihlale iqinisekile. Akufuneki itshintshe ukuze umfazi athembe ukuba indoda iyazi entliziyweni yakhe. Kumele ukuba azive ukuba azinzile koko kungatshintshi. Yintoni etshintsha bubufazi? Lonke olo tshintsho kubafazi ngumdaniso wakhe. Wamkele loo mdaniso.
Ngamanye amaxesha uvavanya umntu obhinqileyo ukuba ucace kangakanani injongo yakho, ngokuyityhala. Ufuna ukukuphazamisa, kwaye uyonwaba xa efumanisa ukuba akanakukwazi.
Vumela ingqondo nomzimba wakho (amalungu atshintshayo) abe yimbonakalo yobunzulu bakho. Amazwi akho atshintshayo makasekelwe entliziyweni yakho, kwaye musa ukuvumela ukuba kube 'ngokungacwangciswanga.' Umfazi kufuneka azive ukuba ukuze akuthembele. Umfazi unokuziva xa uvela ngentliziyo yakho, ubunzulu bakho, kwaye unokuziva xa engafanele akuthembele kuba uvela kwisizathu esingaphezulu.
Nokuba kufikwa kufutshane, ungalihlonipha inqanaba lobudoda okanye ubufazi kubafazi. Abasetyhini abalinganiselayo banomtsalane kumadoda alinganayo kwaye bafuna isondo elithulileyo. Amadoda / amabhinqa asetyhini afuna inkanuko, isini esimangalisayo.
Ingcebiso 5-Dibanisa ubumoya bakho nolwalamano lwakho: kutheni le nto ukusondelelana kuyinto enjalo ngokomoya?
Xa esiva intliziyo yakho, ufuna ukuziva intliziyo kaThixo. Kubunzulu bakho, ufuna ukuziva ubunzulu bukaThixo. Ufuna ukuziva ubuThixo uqobo, obukukhuthazayo kwaye bukhuthaze umnqweno wakho wokuba kunye nawo. Ufuna ukuthathwa nguThixo xa ethandwa athathwe nguwe. Ke uThixo ungoyena ubalulekileyo kuye nakuwe.
Umnqweno wakhe onzulu kukuziva ecacisa, enguThixo. Oku akunakuchazwa ngamagama. Oku kuhlala kuthi sonke. Umnqweno wakho onzulu ayinguye. Bonisa ukuzibophelela kwakho okunzulu: Ndiyakuthanda, kodwa ndiyamthanda uThixo ngaphezu kokukuleqa. Ke ukuba ufuna ukuba nam, ndilapha. Ndiyakuthanda; Ndiza kuzibophelela ukuba ndibe nawe, ndikukhonze egameni likaThixo. Ndinikela kwaye ndifuna yonke loo nto kuwe. Kodwa ukuba awuyifuni loo nto, nam andiyifuni loo nto.
Yile nto ayifunayo: oyena mnqweno wakho unzulu, anokuthi abe yinxalenye yawo. Akafuni ukuba yiyo kuphela into kuwe, kwaye akafuni ukuziva ebaluleke ngakumbi kuwe kunoThixo.
Ufuna ukukhetha umntu othanda ukuzisa intando kaThixo emhlabeni, ukuzibophelela kwakho ekuziseni uthando kunye nokukhanya kwihlabathi, kwaye angayinxalenye yalo. Akafuni ukuba yedwa, inombolo 1 ebomini bakho. Khetha iqabane elikhetha ukuba kunye nawe. Ufuna ukuba yinxalenye yaloo nto.
Ukuba umlandela emva kokuba engaziva eyona njongo yakho isezantsi entliziyweni yakho, uthi: 'Ndiphila kwiminqweno engaphezulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndiyakufuna. Umhle kakhulu kwaye unobubele. Ndingathanda ukuba nawe, nangona ndiphulukene nobomi bam, injongo yam. Andazi ukuba ndiyaphi; UThixo akazukufumana entliziyweni yam. Uyaziva iminqweno yam engabalulekanga, kodwa oko kufanelekile ngokwaneleyo…?
Umfazi onjalo akazukukhetha. Ngale ndlela, njengemishini ebomini bakho, sowuphumelele umfazi owawumfuna? Ayisoze yalunga ngendlela obucinga ngayo. Ishishini njengesiqhelo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba into inokutshintsha ngokusisiseko, uyaphazama.
Amava akho okusondelelana nomnye umntu okanye into ibonakalisa ngqo umnqweno kunye namandla okuba namava kaThixo. Imalunga nokudibanisa ubomi bakho kunye nengqondo yakho nabanye. Impumelelo yakho emtshatweni, kwishishini lakho, nakwimpilo yomzimba, inxulumene ngqo namava akho ngoThixo. Awunakho ukuqhubekeka phambili ngayo nayiphi na into okanye omnye umntu ngaphandle kokuba ungahamba kude kangakanani noThixo. Ukuba ukuthembela kwakho kuThixo kubuthathaka, okanye akukho kwaphela, ukuthembela kwakho kwabanye abantu kwaye nokuthemba kwakho ebomini kuya kuba njalo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo ulwalamano lwakho noThixo ngaphambi kokujonga olunye uhlobo lobudlelwane.
Ingcebiso 6 -Ukuzilolonga ukwenza kunye neqabane lakho - Likhona njani iqabane lam nam?
- Ngexesha lokuzivocavoca kokuphefumla, ujonga iliso lasekhohlo lomlingane wakho.
- Yiva indawo ekujikelezile. Yiva intliziyo yeqabane lakho, njengomlobi uziva iintlanzi emanzini. Uthando, ukuba,
- akukho kwahlukana; kukho apha ubuThixo obubona ubuNgcwele, buziqonda entliziyweni yomnye.
- Yiva ukuba likhona njani iqabane lakho kunye nawe, ke: uziva kangakanani ngawe? Kwinqanaba le-1 ukuya kwi-10?
- Okokuqala, ukwenza oku ngokuvavanya ubukho buthule; emva kwethutyana, iqabane elisebenzayo liqala ukubiza iinombolo kuqala. Emva koko uyenza cwaka kwakhona. Uyabona ukuba iqabane lakho alikho (phantsi kwe-7)? Ngezandla zakho, umbizela ubukho. Nceda ubuyele kum. Kufuneka ndikuve; Kuya kufuneka ndiyive ngakumbi intliziyo yakho.
- Yenza oku ngoku ngaxeshanye, ukuze kungabikho jiko. Yile ndlela esiqeqesha ngayo.
- Phelisa ngesaphetha okanye isenzo esilula ukuthi: enkosi, ndiyayixabisa le nto kunye nawe-isaphetha esilula sombulelo.
Sukuwenza lo mthambo wedwa neqabane lakho, kodwa thatha amandla alo msebenzi xa ujongene nomntu wonke. Ngalo lonke ixesha ubamba oku kubahlobo bakho, ubamba isipho sakho, isipho sakho sobukho. Ukubamba isipho sakho kukubandezeleka. Mhlawumbi ubudiniwe ngalo mzuzu, okanye mhlawumbi ubungazi ukuba kunokwenzeka.
Umahluko: buza, Yeyiphi eyona mishini yakho inzulu? Sukujonga kule nto ithethwa ngomnye umntu, kodwa yiva ukuba ivela entliziyweni yakhe. Yichaze kwakhona kwisikali se-10. Nguwe umsebenzi wakho; uyaphila. Soloko usithi enkosi emva kwawo onke amaxabiso kwaye uxelele imishini yakho kwakhona. Utsho umsebenzi wakhoSMARTkulo msebenzi.
Umahluko: phefumla, yiva intliziyo yakhe, jonga kwiso lakhe lasekhohlo, uzive ukuba, entliziyweni yakhe, ulangazelela ukwaziwa. Ukubonwa, ukuziva ukuba ufuna ukungena kuye, ukuba ufuna ukuziva intliziyo yakhe, njengokuba enjalo, enzulu kunaye ukuze azive ngawe. Esi sisipho abantu ababathandayo abanokunika omnye nomnye.
Umahluko: yithi omnye komnye: Ndifuna wena. Yenza okufanayo nokwahluka kwangaphambili. Nika ingxelo kwisikali se-1 ukuya kwi-10.
Ingcebiso yesi-7 - Ukuzilolonga ukwenza neqabane lakho-isangqa
Hlalani okanye nime kunye nezisu zenu kunye. Elinye iqabane liyaphefumla, kwaye njengesangqa, ukuphefumla kubuya ngomqolo welinye. Ukuphefumlela nzulu kwilungu lakho langasese, uziva ubomi, kunye nokuzalisa imizimba yethu. Beka ulwimi lwakho kwinkalakahla yakho ukuze uvale isekethe yamandla.
Unako kwakhona ukuvumelanisa ukuphefumla kwakho ngale ndlela ngokuhlala ngemiqolo yakho ijongene. Hlalani nxamnye omnye nomnye kwaye nive ukuhamba komoya ukusuka ezantsi ukuya phezulu. Yiva indlela ohamba ngayo umoya wakho ngale ndlela. Okokugqibela, yima kwakhona ngokuxhuma iingalo zakho kunye nokuphakamisa ngamandla - ngemiqolo isachukumisa.
Ingcebiso 8 -Ukuzilolonga ukwenza kunye neqabane lakho- intshukumo yakho yenye yokuhamba kwam
- Hlalani nijongane kwaye ningabambani.
- Phefumla nzulu ngesisu sakho nange crotch.
- Vala amehlo kwaye uzive ubukho bodwa ngaphandle kokuchukumisa. Ngaba uziva umntu? Ubushushu?
- Vula amehlo akho ujonge uthando olubona phambi kwakho, olukuthandayo. Uzibona unalo lolo thando lunye: olo thando luzijongile. Uyalwazi olo Thando, kwaye ulolo thando.
- Bamba izandla zombini phambi kwakho. Kancinci entla kwamadolo akho, amehlo asavaliwe. Phakamisa isandla sakho sasekhohlo ngokungathi ubambe iapile uze uhlise isandla sasekunene ngokungathi ubetha inja.
- Chukumisa izandla zomnye nomnye ngoku kakhulu ngoku, vumela iintende zezandla zakho zanga, zihlala zixhunyiwe.
- Ngomphunga, uzisa elinye icala kuwe kunye nelinye icala kude nawe. Nge-inhalation, uyayenza ngenye indlela. Yintshukumo kaloliwe, ngokungathi kunjalo.
- Yiba nomntu otshintshisanayo ekukhokeleni.
- Zive kakuhle izandla zomnye nomnye. Musa ukubamba okanye ukushenxisa kude: iintende ziqiniswe ngokudibeneyo, ngobunono. Musa ukubamba iminwe yakho.
- Ngoku usuka ngaphambili ungathathi hlangothi - ngasemva kwentshukumo uye kumbutho wokudanisa simahla emajukujukwini.
- Umlingane ongumfazi unika ukukhanya kwentliziyo yakhe kwiqabane eliyindoda. Yiva oku. Olu luthando lwam, oku kukukhanya kwam. Indoda iyifumana ngenkuthalo.
- Buyela kwindawo yoololiwe abangathathi cala.
- Ngoku indoda ikhokela umdaniso. Olu lolona lwazi lunzulu endimele ndilunike. Eyona nto inzulu kakhulu, engenasiphelo, kwaye engenamda. Intshukumo yakho yenye yokuhamba kwam.
Ingcebiso 9 -Ukuzilolonga ukwenza kunye neqabane lakho - Ungumntu omangalisayo
Olu luvo lukhethekileyo ndilufunde kuGqirha Vincent van der Burg we-UNLP. Ukwenza lo msebenzi, ubakhona nomnye ngelixa uhlala nawe ngaxeshanye.
- Bamba izandla zomnye nomnye kwaye bajongane kangangemizuzu emi-5. Ngaphandle kweemaski zentlalo ezinje ngoncumo ukufihla ukuba sesichengeni kokudibana. Elinye iqabane lifumana, elinye iqabane linika. Iqabane elinikayo lithi ngale mizuzu mi-5: Ungumntu omhle. Iqabane elamkelayo lihlala lithe cwaka.
- Nangona ukhona nomnye, injongo asikokuphulukana neemvakalelo zakho. Ukwenza oku, yenza oku kulandelayo: Iqabane elinikayo kunye neqabane elamkelayo bobabini bahlala okwangoku kunye nabo ukuphefumla kwakho. Bazijonga ngokwabo: ivakala njani kum ukufumana / ukubhengeza oku? Ukongeza, unokukhetha ukuhamba nengqwalaselo yakho kwi isisu kunye / okanye iziko lentliziyo yakho. Oku ngokuzenzekelayo kukunika ingqalelo epheleleyo komnye umntu, ngokuchanekileyo kuba uhlala unjalo ngeemvakalelo zakho.
- Ngaba ufuna omnye umjikelo? Emva koko thabatha ikhefu phakathi kwaye wenze ngomzimba wakho kunye neengcinga zakho ukuba ufuna ntoni ukuze uzive usekhaya kwaye uhlale nawe. Yintoni oyonwabelayo ukuzenzela, ukuze uzive ngokukhululeka kwaye unokuhlala ngokwakho ngcono?
- Umahluko owongezelelweyo / izabelo zokuzama: Gxila kwiimvakalelo ('siza Kubane‘) Oyifumana komnye umntu. Ukongeza, phefumla nomnye njengoko usenza oku.
Kuba oku kuthatha imizuzu emihlanu kuphela, akunakwenzeka ukuba ungakwazi ukwenza oku yonke imihla.
Ingcebiso 10 -Uthande iingcebiso zeli nqaku? Zisekelwe kumsebenzi kaDavid Deida
Nangona izihloko ngamanye amaxesha zibonisa ukuba yeyamadoda kuphela, ndiyakuxelela ukuba kunjalo nabafazi.
Kubhekiswa kuwe njengendoda emsebenzini wakhe, kodwa umbhali akenzi mahluko phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi. Ukwahlula kuphela phakathi kwamandla endoda nawabafazi, kwaye oko kunokuba ngamadoda nabafazi.
Iincwadi zikaDavid Deida zizindululo ezilungileyo malunga (nokomoya) ubudlelwane.
Iziqulatho
- Isigaba 1 sokukhula kubudlelwane bothando bokomoya: Ukuzithanda
- Isigaba 2 sokukhula kubudlelwane bothando bokomoya: Okunye
- Isigaba 3 sokukhula kubudlelwane bothando bokomoya: Ubunye
- Ingcebiso 1 -Isiseko sobudlelwane siphulaphule iimvakalelo zakho ezinzulu, endaweni yokucinga ngokungaphezulu
- Ingcebiso yesi-2-Ukuzibophelela kwasekuqaleni: ukolulwa ngokwesondo kukusebenzela injongo yakho yokomoya
- Ingcebiso 3 -Yamkela ukolulwa ngokwesini: Esi sisipho sakho omnye komnye
- Ingcebiso 4 -Fumana iindlela ezininzi zokuhlonipha owesilisa nowasetyhini kubudlelwane bakho
- Ingcebiso 5-Dibanisa ubumoya bakho nolwalamano lwakho: kutheni le nto ukusondelelana kuyinto enjalo ngokomoya?
- Ingcebiso 6 -Ukuzilolonga ukwenza kunye neqabane lakho - Likhona njani iqabane lam nam?
- Ingcebiso yesi-7 - Ukuzilolonga ukwenza neqabane lakho-isangqa
- Ingcebiso 8 -Ukuzilolonga ukwenza kunye neqabane lakho- intshukumo yakho yenye yokuhamba kwam
- Ingcebiso 9 -Ukuzilolonga ukwenza kunye neqabane lakho - Ungumntu omangalisayo
- Ingcebiso 10 -Uthande iingcebiso zeli nqaku? Zisekelwe kumsebenzi kaDavid Deida