Ngaba uThixo uya kuwubuyisela umtshato wam emva kokuba ndikrexezile?

Ngaba uThixo uza kuwubuyisela umtshato wam emva kokukrexeza? . UThixo wawubuyisa umtshato wam emva kokwahlukana .

Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa kukho ukungathembeki kwi umtshato ? Zimbini iindlela onokukhetha kuzo: ukuphela okanye ukuzama ukwenza ifayile ye umsebenzi wobudlelwane .

Ukuba sele uthathe isigqibo sesibini, nantsi sizisa iingcebiso eziza kukukhokela ngendlela lungisa umtshato emva kokungathembeki, kufuneka wenze ntoni xa ungathembeki emtshatweni kwaye ubuyisela njani umfazi wakho (okanye) emva kokwahlukana:

1. Ukugqiba umdlalo

Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuphelisa isithandwa sakho. Umonakalo owaneleyo wenziwe. Ke ukuba unalo ithemba lokusindisa umtshato wakho, zibophelele ekuphuleni lonke unxibelelwano. Oku kuyakwenza imvakalelo yokunqabiseka kwiqabane lakho.

Kwimeko apho usebenza nesithandwa sakho sangaphambili, gcina ubudlelwane busebenza ngokungqongqo kwaye unxibelelana neqabane lakhoyonke intooko kwenzeka emini: ukusuka kwiminxeba, iintlanganiso kunye nokuzama ukubaxelela yonke into ex-ex yakho ethetha nawe. Oku kuyakunceda ukwakha ukuthembana kwakhona emtshatweni ophulwe kukungathembeki.

2. Funa uxolelo kuThixo nakwiqabane lakho

Ngaba uThixo uyawuhlonipha umtshato emva kokukrexeza?Kwimiboniso yobuKristu ngokungathembeki, kukho iivesi ezithile malunga nendlela yokuxolela ukungathembeki emtshatweni ngokweBhayibhile:

• Kunoko, yibani nobubele nemfesane omnye komnye, nixolelane, njengokuba naye uThixo wanixolelayo ekuKristu. Efese 4:35
• Ukuba abantu bam, ababizwa ngegama lam, bayazithoba bathandaze, bafune kwaye bayishiye imikhwa yabo emibi, ndiya kumphulaphula ndisemazulwini, ndibaxolele izono zabo ndibuyisele umhlaba wabo. Iziganeko ezibini zembali 7:14
• Osigubungelayo isono sakhe akayi kuba nampumelelo; nabani na oyivumayo aze ayishiye, ufumana uxolelo. IMizekeliso 28:13

Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga

Guquka ngokusuka entliziyweni. Okokuqala, funa uxolelo lukaThixo ngokwaphula izibhambathiso zakho emva koko iqabane lakho lokumngcatsha.

Thandaza, nokuba ucinga, Ungandinceda njani umthandazo wokugcina umtshato wam? Oku kuthoba ingqondo kunye neengcinga zakho, kukwenza ubonakalise ngokucacileyo.

Thetha noThixo uthi, Lo ngumthandazo wokubuyisela umtshato wam. Ndiyaxolisa. Nceda undincede kwaye undixelele ukuba ndingawubuyisa njani umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki.

Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo

Thandazela ukuba uThixo akukhokele kwinkqubo yoxolelo kunye nokuphilisa emtshatweni.

Usenokuzibuza ukuba uza kukuxolela njani ukungathembeki emtshatweni, kodwa zama ukubeka ecaleni intlungu kwaye ucinge ngamaxesha amnandi okhe wabanalo neqabane lakho ukuze nikwazi ukupholisa inxeba. Akukho nto ingenakwenzeka kuThixo, ukuba siyicela ngokusuka entliziyweni.

Ukungathembeki emtshatweni akufuneki kube sisiphelo, ke ukuba ufuna indlela yokujongana nomtshato emva kokungathembeki, sikunika ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo eziza kufundisa nobabini ukuba niqhubeke njani:

3. Thetha ngokunyaniseka okupheleleyo neqabane lakho

Ukuthembana kuqhawukile, kwaye sesinye seziphumo zokungathembeki emtshatweni. Inkqubo yokuphinda uyifumane ihamba kancinci kwaye inokufezekiswa kuphela ekuhleni ekuhleni.

Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga

Ukuba uyazibuza, Ndiphinda ndikuthembe njani iqabane lam emva kokuxoka? Qala ngokunyaniseka. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uxele zonke iinkcukacha zothando lomlingane wakho, kodwa kufuneka uzimisele ukuphendula nawuphi na umbuzo abawubuzayo, nkqu neyona icacileyo nengaqhelekanga.

Lungela uhlobo lwamabinzana malunga nokungathembeki emtshatweni, njengokuthi: Yintoni anayo endingenayo? Kutheni wenze lento kum? Ngaba uyigqibile yonke i-adventure?

Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo

Cacisa yonke imibuzo eza entlokweni yakho kwaye uhlale ukhumbula ukuba nangona wenzakele, iqabane lakho nalo lenzakele, nangona ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kuba ayifuni kulahlekelwa nguwe ngaphandle kokwenza iimpazamo.

Zama ukulungelelanisa iimvakalelo zakho kunye nemfuno yolwazi, kuba iinkcukacha ezininzi onazo zothando lwakho neqabane lakho, kokukhona ezo mifanekiso ziya kuziphinda entlokweni yakho kwaye kuya kuthatha ixesha elide ukuphola. Ngendlela yokuphilisa ukunganyaniseki, sikucebisa ukuba uziphilise kuqala.

4. Yenza ukuzibophelela kwe-100% ukugcina umtshato wakho

Impendulo yento enokuyenza ukusindisa umtshato wam? kukuzibophelela okupheleleyo kuba nakwimitshato engakhange ihambe ngokungathembeki, bobabini indoda nomfazi kufuneka bazinikele ngokupheleleyo omnye komnye. Uthando lwenene luphumelela kuphela ngokuzinikela ngokupheleleyo.

Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga

Ewe umtshato ungagcinwa emva kokungathembeki. Kodwa qala ngokuzibophelela kuwe, uzibekele injongo yokugcina umtshato wakho, ukuvuselela izifungo zakho, kunye nokufumana kwakhona ukuthembana kweqabane lakho.

Kuya kufuneka umbonise indlela ozibophelele ngayo, usenza nantoni na eyenzekayo. Oko kubandakanya ukuba nomonde, ukuthobeka, ukwamkela ukuba wenze impazamo, ukusondela kuyo ngobumnene, kunye nokuqonda indlela abasabela ngayo kunye neemvakalelo zabo.

Iingcebiso zabakhohlisiweyo

Unelungelo lokuba nomsindo kodwa zama kangangoko ukuba ungasebenzisi umsindo wakho ukohlwaya iqabane lakho ngamazwi anezothe kunye nezenzo.

Unokonwaba emva kokungathembeki. Kufuneka ugcine engqondweni: Ndifuna ukubuyisa umtshato wam kuba ndiyalithanda iqabane lam. Kwaye jonga izizathu zokuba uxolele ukungathembeki emtshatweni kwaye uhlale ecaleni kwakho.

5. Yiba nomonde kwiqabane lakho: limncede aphile

Isayikholoji yomtshato isixelela ukuba imeko yokungathembeki ichaphazela omabini amaqela. Ke bobabini ukukopela kunye nokukhohlisa bobabini kufuneka baxhasane ukuze baphilise kwaye baphinde babuyise umtshato wabo kakuhle.

Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo

Into yokuqala ukuphuma entlokweni yakho: Ndilahlekelwe ngumlingane wam kukungathembeki. Khangela iincwadi malunga nokungathembeki emtshatweni kunye nokubonakaliswa kwemitshato kwintlekele yokungathembeki, ukuqonda kangcono kangcono indlela yokujamelana nolwalamano emva kokungathembeki kunye nayo yonke inkqubo ebandakanyekayo kule meko.

Sikwacebisa ukuba uye kutherapista, iqela lecawa, okanye uthethe nabahlobo abasondeleyo ukuze uvuse umsindo kwaye bakunike iingcebiso malunga nokuba ungamelana njani nomtshato emva kokungathembeki.

Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga

Njengoko le nkqubo yahlukile kumadoda nabasetyhini, siza kuyichaza ngolu hlobo:

• Ukungathembeki emtshatweni yindoda. Abasetyhini banemvakalelo, kwaye sinokwenza ngeendlela ezimbini: ukuvala iingqondo zethu okanye ukuveza yonke into esivayo. Ukuba umfazi wakho wenza njengowokuqala, mnike indawo yakhe ekuqaleni, kodwa ke zama ukuthetha naye.
• Ukungathembeki kwabasetyhini emtshatweni. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda ayahamba xa eziva ekhathazekile; lithuku lakho lokuzikhusela. Zama kangangoko ukumfumana kwaye ube lapho kuye nanini na xa efuna wena. Sukubaleka okanye umthuke. Yiba nothando nomonde.

6. Phinda wakhe ukuthembana

Kufuneka wenze ntoni ukubuyisa umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki? Ungaliphatha njani iqabane lam emva kokungathembeki? Ngaba ukungathembeki emtshatweni kungapheliswa? Ngaba imibuzo esizibuza yona xa sikule meko.

Inyani yile yokuba ubudlelwane bunokusebenza emva kokungathembeki, kodwa kuthatha umsebenzi omninzi ukubuyisa ukuzithemba kweqabane eliqhathiweyo.

Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo

Siyazi ukuba wenzakele kuba ukukopa emtshatweni akukho lula ukukunyamezela, kodwa kancinci kancinci, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuthembela kwiqabane lakho kwakhona.

Ekuqaleni, kuyaqondakala ukuba ufuna ukwazi ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba uhlala nabani, jonga ifowuni kunye neenethiwekhi zentlalo. Kodwa kancinci kancinci, kuya kufuneka uyeke ukuyenza, ngenxa yakho, yeqabane lakho kunye nolwalamano ngokubanzi. Ukuba kukho imfuneko, sebenza nonyango.

Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga

Ayizukwanela ukuba uthi, Ndithembe. Bonisa iqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukubuyisela umtshato wakho. Yinkqubo ecothayo eza kufuna umonde wakho kwaye ufunde ukunikezela.

Ukuba ingcinga yakho yemihla ngemihla ithi, Ndifuna ukugcina umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki, ndisuse ubuxoki neemfihlo ebomini bakho. Nyaniseka, mbuze xa unemibuzo, kwaye ube nothando.

7. Bonisa uvelwano

Ingcebiso ngokubanzi malunga nendlela yokunceda umtshato osengxakini luvelwano. Ukubuyiselwa kwemitshato eyahluliweyo kuqala ngokuqonda ukuba omnye uziva njani, ukuze abanike inkxaso abayifunayo kwaye bebonke boyisa le meko.

Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo

Akukho mbumbulu yomlingo wokuba ungamelana njani nokungathembeki emtshatweni, kodwa ukuba iqabane lakho lenza konke okusemandleni ukusindisa umtshato kwiingxaki, ungabi ngqwabalala kuye (kuye).

Musa ukummangalela. Musa ukuthetha amazwi ahlabayo, kwaye musa ukukhuphela umsindo wakho kwiqabane lakho. Ayizukusombulula nantoni na.

Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga

Ukuba uhlala uzibuza: ungabuya njani ukuzithemba emva kokungathembeki? Kuba ukuqonda neqabane lakho yenye indlela. Zama ukuqonda indlela oziva ngayo kwaye ucinge ngendlela obungathanda ukuphathwa ngayo ukuba ubungumlingane wakho.

Usenokuzibuza, Ngaba zikhona iingcebiso zokuphumelela iqabane lam? Ewe, kufuneka uyazi ukuba eyona ndlela ilungileyo kukuba novelwano, uthando kunye nomonde.

8. Musa ukulindela uxolelwaniso olukhawulezayo okanye olulula

Ukuba ufuna ukwazi iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokubuyisela ubudlelwane emva kokungathembeki ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokulula, kufuneka sikuxelele ukuba akukho zicwangciso zokwenza oko. Intsika esisiseko, ethembekileyo, yaphulwe, kwaye ukuyibuyisela ayingomsebenzi olula.

Ukuba nguwe owenze ityala, siyakuxwayisa ukuba ulindele umsindo, umsindo, kunye neenyembezi kwiqabane lakho. Elinye icebo esinokukunika lona ngendlela yokuhlangula umtshato wakho yile: yiba nomonde. Baya kuba neentsuku ezilungileyo nezimbi, kodwa kufuneka bahlale bekhumbula ingcinga enye: Ndifuna ukugcina umtshato wam.

Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga

Mhlawumbi uyazibuza, Ndilenza njani iqabane lam lithandane kwakhona? Ewe, yenze ngeenkcukacha ezincinci yonke imihla, ngomonde, uthando kunye nokunyaniseka. Kancinci kancinci, uya kuyiphumeza. Yiba nokholo nje lokuba izinto ziyakulunga.

9. Cela inkxaso

Nxibelelana nosapho, izihlobo, kwaye ufumane neqela lenkxaso lokujoyina, njengaleyo ikumabandla obuKristu. Oku kuya kubanceda bazive bengenakonakala xa bekuphakathi kokungathembeki kumtshato wamaKristu.

Zimasa unyango lwezibini kwaye ufune lonke uncedo ocinga ukuba luyimfuneko ekufundiseni indlela yokwakha umtshato emva kokungathembeki.

Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo

Ukuba uyazibuza, Ndingonwaba njani emtshatweni wam? Zimanye neqela lenkxaso ukuze likuncede ukhuphe zonke iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ukuze uphilise kwaye wonwabe kwakhona.

Nokuba bekukho ukungathembeki ngaphambi komtshato kwaye ngoku sele ufumanisa, thetha ngayo yonke into oziva ngayo. Musa ukugcina nantoni na. Leyo kuphela kwendlela yokuphelisa iintlungu.

10. Qonda ukuba inxeba alinakuphola ngokupheleleyo

Esinye sezibonakaliso zokungathembeki emtshatweni ekufuneka le meko ibashiyele bobabini kukuba, nokuba bayakwazi ukuwoyisa, kuyakuhlala kukho isikhumba esinzulu esiya kwenzakala amaxesha ngamaxesha nangakumbi kwiimeko zoxinzelelo.

Nokuba bathe bafumanisa ukuba kutheni kungathembeki emtshatweni kwaye bayisombulule, awungekhe ulibale ukungathembeki emtshatweni. Sisilonda esihlala entliziyweni ubomi bonke.

Yintoni ethathwa njengokungathembeki emtshatweni?

Kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuba yintoni na kwaye ayisiyo isenzo sokungathembeki, nangona kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane nganye. Ngokubanzi, sinokukuxelela ezinye zeendlela zokuziphatha eziqhelekileyo:

• Ukuba iqabane lakho liceba ukutsiba emntwini, ngakumbi kwiindawo ezingezizo ezoluntu.
• Unayo iprofayili esebenzayo ekuboniseni ukuthandana iisayithi okanye ukuthandana.
• Sebenzisa isenzo sesondo nabanye abantu.
• Ukuba ikuxelela ukuba iziva ingaphaya komnye umntu.
• Bayangana kwaye babange abanye abantu, kwaye oko kubonisa ukuba iinjongo zabo ayikokuthanda nje kuphela.

Wazi njani ukuba kukho ukungathembeki emtshatweni?

Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba iqabane lakho linenkosikazi, ngaphambi kokuba ukhangele ukuba ungayiphumelela njani indoda yam (a) ukuba inesithandwa?), Sicebisa ukuba uqiniseke ukuba ukule meko ngokwenene, kunye nezimo zengqondo esizikhankanyileyo wena. ukuqhubeka:

• Funa ukuba wedwa.
• Ikhwele lakhe liyalawuleka, njengoko kubonakala nakwesiphi isimo sengqondo abanye abanaso nawe.
• Uhlala enovalo ngaphandle kwesizathu.
• Iyamangalisa.

Ungajongana njani nokungathembeki emtshatweni?

Nokuba uziqaphele okanye awuzibonanga iimpawu zokungathembeki emtshatweni xa ufumanisa ngokusesikweni ngale meko, ungena kwimeko yothuko nokungakholelwa ekungekho lula ukoyisa, kodwa sicebisa oku kulandelayo:

1. Ukuba nguwe owenze ukungathembeki, xelela iqabane lakho-uzolile kwaye ungakhange uphakamise lizwi-kwenzeka ntoni kwaye umamele yonke into endiyithethayo. Khumbula ukuba enye yeendlela zokuhlangula umtshato xa usengxakini, kukunyaniseka kwakhona.
2. Ukuba uyamqhatha, zama ukuthatha umoya ophefumlayo ngaphambi kokuphendula nantoni na.
3. Ngaphambi kokwenza isigqibo, camngca kakuhle kwaye ixesha elide lelona lilungele wena. Kulungile ukuxolela ukungathembeki emtshatweni, kuphela ukuba ucinga ukuba uza kuphinda uthembe iqabane lakho kwakhona.
4. Ukubaleka okwethutyana emva kokuthetha. Ngokubanzi, umtshato uyasebenza emva kokwahlukana, kuba bekwazile ukupholisa amanxeba ngokwahlukeneyo kwaye banokugxila ekunyangeni ubudlelwane.

Kwenzeka ntoni emva kokungathembeki emtshatweni?

Into yokuqala kukuba uthotho lwemibuzo luza engqondweni: Ndingenza ntoni ukugcina umtshato wam?, Ndingalifumana njani iqabane lam? Ndingawusindisa njani umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki? , indlela yokoyisa ukungathembeki emtshatweni?

Inyani yile yokuba akukho fomyula yomlingo okanye umatshini ngexesha lokwakha kwakhona oku kulandelayo: iivoti kunye nokuthembana kuye kwaphulwa, ke kuya kubakho ukukhala, ukukhala, ukuthula, kunye noxinzelelo olukhulu phakathi kwezi zimbini.

Kuyenzeka ukuba ubekhona umgama, kodwa ungakhathazeki, kuba amaxesha amaninzi yinto eyimfuneko ukukwazi ukuphilisa kunye nokuqhubeka kobudlelwane.

Ngokwebhayibhile: Uwubuyisela njani umtshato emva kokungathembeki?

Into yokuqala kukuba bobabini mabathandaze ngokusuka entliziyweni kwaye bahlala bekhumbula: UThixo angawubuyisa umtshato wam.

Enye indlela yokubuyisela umtshato wamaKristu kukubonakaliswa kweBhayibhile. Ezinye zazo zezi:

• UMateyu 6:33. Kodwa funa ubukumkani bakhe nobulungisa bakhe kuqala, kwaye zonke ezi zinto ziya kongezelelwa kuwe.
• Yakobi 4: 4. Owu, mphefumlo ukrexezayo! Anazi na ukuba ubuhlobo behlabathi bubutshaba kuye uThixo? Ke ngoko, lowo ufuna ukuba ngumhlobo wehlabathi uba lutshaba lukaThixo.
• UMarko 11:25. Kwaye xa uthandaza, ukuba unento ngakuye, mxolele ukuze uYihlo osemazulwini axolele nezakho izono.

Umthandazo wokusindisa umtshato wam kwaye uxolele ukungathembeki

Ukuba uyazibuza, Ndiyazi njani ukuba uThixo ufuna ukubuyisela umtshato wam?, Uya kuba nempendulo ngomthandazo.

Singakubhalela umthandazo wendoda engathembekanga, omnye umthandazo wendoda ekrexezayo, kunye nomthandazo wendoda ekrexezayo, kodwa siyakholelwa ukuba awukho umthandazo osebenzayo ngaphandle kwalowo wenziwe ngokusuka entliziyweni.

Hlala kwindawo ethe cwaka uthethe noThixo ngokungathi ubunaye phambi kwakho. Mxelele intlungu yakho kunye nosizi lwakho. Zibeke ezandleni zakhe kwaye uthembe ukuba uya kuyazi indlela anokukunceda ngayo.

Ngaba umtshato uyasebenza emva kokungathembeki okuninzi?

Ngokwam, andicingi ukuba umtshato ungasebenza emva kokungathembeki okuninzi ukusukela ukuba xa kukho omnye, kuhlala kukho inxeba elincinci, elininzi, inxeba liya kuba likhulu kakhulu ukuba lingaphola.

Ukungathembeki emtshatweni kunokuxolelwa, kodwa uninzi alunako. Nokuba bebeluhlobo nje lokungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni, ukuthembana kuyawa kwinqanaba lokungabikho.

Uqala njani kwakhona emva kokungathembeki?

Into yokuqala kukuba bobabini mabazibophelele ekusebenzeni kwelona liphezulu kulwalamano. Isibini esonayo kufuneka sigqibe konke ukunxibelelana nesithandwa saso, kwaye abo bakhohlisiweyo kufuneka basebenze ekuxoleleni kwaye bafunde ukuthembela kwakhona.

Iincwadi zokungathembeki emtshatweni zinokukunceda uthathe amanyathelo anokukufundisa ukuba ungawubuyisa njani umtshato xa usengxakini.

Ungakusinda njani ukungathembeki emtshatweni?

Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokufumana kwakhona ubudlelwane emva kokungathembeki:

• Yakha ubudlelwane ngokunyaniseka nokunyaniseka.
• Yamkela okwenzekileyo, kwaye uzame ukulibala okwenzekileyo. Ukukhumbula wonke umzuzu akulunganga komnye wenu.
• Fumanisa ukuba kutheni kungathembeki emtshatweni. Nje ukuba uyiqonde, sebenza unobangela, ukuze ingaphindi yenzeke.
• Hlaziya ubudlelwane kwaye uqhubeke.

Ngaba kunokubakho ukubuyiselwa komtshato emva kokukrexeza?

Kuyaxhomekeka. Ukuba bobabini bazibophezele ekwakheni umtshato kwakhona kwaye bayaqonda ukuba ayizukuba lula okanye ikhawuleze umsebenzi, ubudlelwane bunokuphiliswa.

Kwimeko apho omnye kwaba bangazibopheleli entliziyweni okanye enze umgudu oyimfuneko, okanye ukuba sikunika iingcebiso eziliwaka ngendlela yokuwusindisa umtshato emva kokungathembeki, uya kuba nakho ukubuyisela ubudlelwane. Umtshato ubini kwaye ufuna ukuba bobabini bazinikele omnye komnye.

Ndifanele ndimphathe njani umyeni wam emva kokungathembeki?

Ukuba ufuna ingcebiso ngendlela yokuphatha ukungathembeki emtshatweni, kuba awazi kakuhle ukuba wenzeni, apha sikulethela uninzi:

1. Thatha umoya omninzi kwaye wehlise umoya ukuphepha ukwenza izigqibo ezimbi.
2. Jongana naye umbuze yonke into ofuna ukuyazi. Yenze ngethoni ezolileyo, ngaphandle kokungxola okanye ukubiza igama.
3. Thatha ixesha kuye ukuba wetyise yonke into kwaye ucinge malunga nokuba ufanele ukuxolela na ukungathembeki emtshatweni.

Ungamphumelela njani umyeni wam emva kokuba endiqhathile?

Ukuba ngoku umbuzo wakho ngulo: Ndingawubuyisa njani umtshato wam xa umyeni wam engandithandi ?, Kuya kufuneka sikuxelele ukuba awungekhe ugcine umtshato xa kungekho thando lubandakanyekayo.

Kwimeko apho ucinga ukuba useneemvakalelo ngawe, ezinye iingcebiso zendlela yokuphumelela umyeni wam emva zezi:

• Lungela. Mhlawumbi isiqhelo sigqiba uthando kunye nomnqweno wokubonakala umhle kuye. Ke qala ukuyenzela yona, ukuze ukuzithemba kwakho kuphakame kwaye atsaleleke kuwe.
• Musa ukumbanga. Unelungelo lokuziva unomsindo kwaye umxelele izinto, kodwa zama ukukwenza ngelizwi elipholileyo ukuze akuqonde okuthethayo.
• Ukuba uyazibuza, Ndingenza ntoni ukuze ndibuyise umyeni wam? Enye yeengcebiso ezilungileyo kukufuna uThixo. Ayikuko ukuba ube ngongakhathaliyo, kodwa iyazama ukujonga ukuphelelwa lithemba kwakho kwimisebenzi esempilweni kangangoko.

Ukubuyisela njani ubudlelwane emva kokungathembeki?

Impumelelo kwiimeko zokwenyani zokungathembeki emtshatweni kukuba bobabini basebenze nzima ukubuyisa intsika esisiseko kulwalamano oluthembekileyo. Ngenxa yoku, kufuneka bazinikele ngokupheleleyo ekuphumeleleni.

Esinye sezizathu zokuba ukungathembeki kwenzeka emtshatweni ngokuchanekileyo kukuba omnye kwaba babini akazinikelanga kubudlelwane, yiyo ke le nto kufuneka usebenze kakhulu.

Ngaba ungawufumana umtshato emva komonakalo ongaka?

Ngokuzibophelela, ukubambana, nokusebenza nzima, umtshato unokuphinda ufumaneke emva kokungathembeki. Ezinye iingcebiso esingakunika zona malunga nendlela onokuphucula ngayo umtshato emva kokungathembeki okanye ukwahlukana zezi:

• Yiya kunyango lomntu ngamnye kunye nolwabini. Ngokwesiqhelo, oonobangela bokungathembeki emtshatweni bangaphakathi kweqabane elonileyo, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba usebenze ngezo mvakalelo, ukuze ungabuyeli kwisilingo.
• Umbuzo malunga nokuba ungakuxoleli na ukungathembeki emtshatweni akufuneki ubuzwe ukuba umntu ufuna ukonwaba neqabane lakhe kwakhona.

Ndingawubuyisa njani umtshato wam emva kokwahlukana?

Ezinye iingcebiso ngezibini ezahluliweyo eziza kukufundisa indlela yokubuyisela umtshato wakho emva kokwahlukana zezi:

• Qonda ukuba ukwahlukana akufani noqhawulo mtshato. Izibini ezininzi ziyahlukana ukuze zipholise amanxeba azo zodwa, kwaye xa zilungile, ziyajoyina kwakhona, kwaye ubudlelwane busebenza ngcono.
• Ngomzamo, umonde, kunye nokuzibophelela, ungagcina ubudlelwane emva kokungathembeki.
• Nika iqabane lakho indawo kwaye uhloniphe ukuthula kwabo. Iqabane lakho liya kukukhangela xa lifuna ukuthetha.
• Xa uthetha naye, yenze ngothando nangomonde. Musa ukuyityhala okanye ukuyigweba.

Unokonwaba njani emtshatweni emva kokungathembeki?

Ukuba ujonga indlela yokujongana nokungathembeki emtshatweni kwaye wonwabe kwakhona, sikunika elona cebiso lilungileyo unokulifumana: ixesha liyaphilisa yonke into.

Kuyinyani ukuba kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho nakubudlelwane, kodwa akukho lunyango lungcono lweentlungu kunokuvumela ixesha lidlule, kwaye inxeba liyaphola ngoncedo lwezenzo zethu kunye neqabane lethu.

Ungawubuyisela njani umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki?

Ukuba ucinga, Umtshato wam awusebenzi, ndenza ntoni? Hlala uzolile kwaye, okomzuzwana, uyeke ukukhangela iimpendulo zendlela yokubuyisela umtshato wakho emva kokungathembeki. Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukunyaniseka kwiqabane lakho. Hlala phantsi uthethe kwindawo ezolileyo neyimfihlo.

Emva kwencoko, thatha isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi indlela oza kuyithatha ukubuyisa umtshato wakho; ukuba baya kufuna unyango lwezibini okanye ukuba baya kwiqela lenkxaso; ukuba bazokwahlulwa okwexeshana okanye ukuba baya kuhlala kunye phantsi kwesivumelwano sokungaphikisani.

Kutheni ukungathembeki kwabasetyhini emtshatweni?

Phambi kokuba ufune ukwazi indlela yokuwuhlangula umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki, kufuneka ubuze ngezizathu zokungathembeki kwabasetyhini emtshatweni. Igqitha ngaphaya komnqweno wesini kuba abantu basetyhini becwangcisa kakuhle kakhulu ngoobani, phi, kwaye njani abaya kukrexeza.

Unobangela wokungathembeki kwabasetyhini emtshatweni kunokuba:

• Njengempindezelo yokungathembeki ngaphambi komtshato.
• Ukubaleka isiqhelo kwaye ubuye uzive unqwenela kwaye uyathandwa.
• Xa umfazi engathembekanga emtshatweni, kungenxa yokuba uziva elilolo kuba mhlawumbi ungamniki ngqwalaselo okanye uthando olwaneleyo aludingayo.

Ungamenza njani umfazi wam athande kwakhona?

Ngaba uyazibuza ukuba ungambuyisa njani umfazi wam emva kokwahlukana okanye ulubuyisela njani uthando lomfazi wam? Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela onokubakhumbuza ngayo ngothando olwenze ukuba babambane:

• Menze azive emhle naxa engenguye. Mxelele ukuba iimpahla azinxibileyo zibukeka zintle kuye okanye uthanda iinwele zakhe ezikhulisiweyo.
• Yeka ukucinga ngamaxesha onke: indlela yokubuyisela umfazi wam emva kokungathembeki. Oku kuyakwenza ukuba wenze iimpazamo.
• Buza malunga nosuku lwakhe kwaye umphulaphule ngaphandle kokufuna ukusombulula iingxaki zakhe.
• Mkhuthaze ukuba afezekise iinjongo zakhe. Mnike iinkcukacha yonke imihla.

Ndingalufumana njani uthando lomyeni wam?

Uyenza njani indoda yam iphinde yathandane? okanye ndenza njani ukuba umyeni wam athande yonke imihla? mhlawumbi zizinto ezixhalabisa intloko yakho rhoqo. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nokubuyisa iqabane lakho emva kokungathembeki:

• Mka kuye okwethutyana. Ke uzibuze: ndingamenza njani umyeni wam ukuba athande kwakhona ukuba andikho kufutshane naye, lo mbandela ulula: uyeke ukumkhumbula, kwaye uyayisusa engqondweni yakho ingcinga: indlela yokubuyisa umyeni wam ukuba unomnye umfazi. Musa ukumkhathaza; uziva ungabikho, kwaye uba yinto enqwenelekayo.
• Qhagamshelana kwakhona. Kuphela kuxa eqala ukukufuna, bonisa ukuba ukhuselekile, wonwabile kwaye uqinisekile. Lo mfanekiso wakho uya kumenza akhumbule ukuba kwakutheni ukuze akhethe njengomfazi wakhe.

Umbuyisa njani umyeni wam xa enesithandwa?

Siyazi ukuba uzingelwa indlela yokuphumelela umyeni wam, kodwa ekuphelelweni lithemba, awuyi kuphumelela. Ke into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukrazula olovakalelo emzimbeni wakho.

Yeka ukukhangela iingcebiso zendlela yokubuyisa umyeni wam. Susa zonke iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kuwe (ukuziva unetyala, umsindo, usizi, ukungabi nathemba) kwaye uqalise ukucinga ngendlela yokubuyisa umyeni wakho kwakhona, ngaphandle kokumcenga.

Zilungiselele. Thatha ixesha kuye ukuze ubone ukuba ulahlekile. Musa ukummangalela ngeempazamo zakhe, kwaye ungaphikisi. Ungaze ulahlekelwe sisidima sakho xa ujongene nesithandwa sakho. Khumbula ukuba ungomnye, kwaye ingxaki, ekugqibeleni, ngumyeni wakho.

Kufuneka wenze ntoni emva kokungathembeki emtshatweni?

1. Cinga ngobomi bakho. Thatha ixesha lokucinga malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza kunye neyona nto ilungele wena. Cacisa iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho.
2. Uyaxolela. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba sikunike xa ujonge iindlela zokoyisa ukungcatsha umthetho. Ukufumana izigwenxa akusombululi ingxaki.
3. Uyathetha. Okucacileyo, kodwa kuya kufuneka uthethe neqabane lakho ngokunyaniseka okupheleleyo nangokuzola. Fumanisa ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kanye kanye emtshatweni wakho.
4. Ukuhlaziya ngokukhawuleza kobudlelwane. Ukuba uyazibuza, Ndingawusindisa njani umtshato wam ebunzimeni? Enye indlela yokwenza oku kukuphinda ucinge iinjongo zakho njengesibini kwaye ubuyele kwiziseko zobudlelwane: ukuthandana kunye neenkcukacha ezikukhumbuza ukuba kutheni nikunye.
5. Yiya kunyango lwezibini. Ingcebiso ye-cliche, kodwa yeyona ilungileyo sinokukunika yona, ukuze uyazi ukuba ungawubuyisa njani umtshato wakho emva kokungathembeki. Iya kubanceda basebenze ekwakheni kwakhona ukuzithemba kwabo nokuzithemba kwabo.

Ungalulama njani emva kokungathembeki emtshatweni?

Ngokuqinisekileyo sifunde ukubonakaliswa kokungathembeki emtshatweni, kodwa xa sibandakanyeka kule meko, sicinga kuphela: Ndingawubuyisa njani umtshato wam emva koku?

Inyaniso ayilulanga, kodwa ngokuzinikela kokubini, ungaya phambili. Kuya kufuneka bazi ukuba baya kuba neentsuku ezilungileyo nezimbi, ukuba yinkqubo ecothayo kwaye ibuhlungu, ekufuneka bayinikezele kwaye bafuna uncedo lwangaphandle.

Uwuphucula njani umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki?

Ukuba awuthembekanga, into yokuqala kukucinga ukuba kutheni ungathembekanga emtshatweni kwaye yintoni eyakhokelela ekubeni uzophule izifungo zakho. Emva kokungena ngaphakathi, funa uncedo ukunqanda ukwenza loo nto kwakhona. Zama ukuqonda iqabane lakho, uthembeke, uphendule into endikubuza yona, kwaye ufunde ukulalanisa.

Kwimeko apho uye waqhathwa, yeka ukucinga ngendlela onokubuyisa ngayo umtshato emva kokungathembeki. Sebenzela ukuxolelwa, emva koko ungaqhubela phambili ekwakheni ubudlelwane kwakhona.

Iingcebiso zokubuyisa umtshato wam

Apha sikulethela amanyathelo amahlanu ngendlela yokuphucula umtshato xa usengxakini:

1. Thetha neqabane lakho yonke imihla.
2. Khumbula ukuba isondo kubalulekile. Ukuba khange benze njalo ixesha elide, amadoda acinga ukuba amaqabane abo akasenamdla kwezesondo kwaye abasetyhini abasenamtsalane kwiqabane labo.
3. Funda ukubona into elungileyo yonke imihla kwiqabane lakho kwaye umxelele.
4. Gxila kwiinjongo zakho ezifanayo kwaye usebenze kuzo. Inokuba ivela kwimisebenzi ebonakalayo kwiprojekthi yeshishini.
5. Fumana umcebisi womtshato. Isenokuba ivela ecaweni yakho okanye kunyangi. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ungumntu okhethekileyo kwisifundo kwaye ngubani owaziyo ukuba awubuyise njani umtshato xa usengxakini.

Ungawubuyisa njani umtshato emva kokwahlukana?

1. Thetha. Ukuthetha ngayo yonke into eyenzekayo kunceda kakhulu. Khumbula ukuba ukuba wawutshatile, kungenxa yokuba kwakha kwakho uthando, kwaye ayisiyiyo loo nto ithi shwaka ngokukhawuleza; kusibekele kuphela unxibelelwano olubi.
2. Patten isombulula iingxaki. Akufanele bashiyelwe ixesha elizayo, kodwa bafune izisombululo kwakamsinya nje ukuba zibonakale ukuze bangafumani ingqumbo okanye benze iinkumbulo ezimbi.
3. Yima kancinci. Sonke sinemibono eyahlukileyo, kodwa ukuhlala kunye njengesibini kuthetha ukuba kufuneka sinikezele kwaye samkele omnye njengoko enjalo, ngamandla akhe kunye nobuthathaka. Ukuba uyazibuza ngendlela yokulungisa umtshato wam, kubalulekile ukuba ucinge ngako.

Ungawubuyisa njani umtshato emva kokungathembeki?

Ukuba awuyazi indlela yokujongana nokungathembeki emtshatweni, kodwa ufuna ukubuyisela ubudlelwane, landela ezi ngcebiso:

• Yamkela into eyenzekileyo. Awunakho ukubuyela umva ngexesha kwaye uthintele ukungathembeki. Yamkela iimvakalelo zakho ukuze usebenze kuzo kwaye woyise iintlungu.
• Ziveze. Nokuba uyenza njani, khulula yonke into oziva ngaphakathi kuyo. Ukuba ungumoni, vumela iqabane lakho lithethe yonke into eliyithethayo kwaye ungazinciphisi iimvakalelo zakhe.
• Cinga wedwa. Kulungile kuni nobabini, kwabangathembekanga baqonde umonakalo awenzileyo kunye nabakhohlisiweyo ukuze bakwazi ukwetyisa yonke into eyenzekayo.
• Uyaxolela.

Uncedo ukugcina umtshato wam: amanyathelo amathathu okuwenza

1. Hlalutya ubudlelwane. Gxila ekuchongeni ukungavumelani kweqabane lakho kunye neqabane lakho, iyantlukwano, kunye nesimo sengqondo. Zama ukubalungisa kwaye uhlale phantsi neqabane lakho ukuze nifumane izisombululo ezinokubakho.
2. Zibophelele kulwalamano. Hlalani kunye, thethani yonke into, musani ukugxeka okanye nizigwebe, nibe neenkcukacha, nibe nomonde omnye komnye nize nincome okungenani yonke imihla.
3. Cela uncedo kwiingcali. Asisoze sidinwe kukunika eli cebiso. Inokubanceda ukuba basebenze ngcono kubudlelwane obusondeleyo nakwiingxaki zabo.

Ungawusindisa njani umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki? Kwenzeka ntoni xa kukho ukungathembeki emtshatweni? Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa ungathembeki emtshatweni? Ungajongana njani nokungathembeki emtshatweni? Yimibuzo esikuchazela yona ukuba sisebenzisane kwinkqubo yakho yokwakha ngokutsha umtshato kunye nokomeleza ubudlelwane.

Kwimeko apho uyazibuza, Ndingawusindisa njani umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki? okanye ungaliphumelela njani iqabane lam emva kokungathembeki ?, uya kuphumeza oku kuphela ukuba iqabane lakho likulungele ukubuyisa ukwaphula izifungo.

Ukuba ulithandile eli nqaku, unganqikazi ukwabelana ngalo kwiinethiwekhi zakho zentlalo.

Iziqulatho

• 1. Ukugqiba umdlalo
• 2. Funa uxolelo kuThixo nakwiqabane lakho
• Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga
• Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo
• 3. Thetha ngokunyaniseka okupheleleyo neqabane lakho
• Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga
• Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo
• 4. Yenza ukuzibophelela kwe-100% ukugcina umtshato wakho
• Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga
• Iingcebiso zabakhohlisiweyo
• 5. Yiba nomonde kwiqabane lakho: limncede aphile
• Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo
• Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga
• 6. Phinda wakhe ukuthembana
• Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo
• Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga
• 7. Bonisa uvelwano
• Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo
• Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga
• 8. Musa ukulindela uxolelwaniso olukhawulezayo okanye olulula
• Ingcebiso kwabangathembekanga
• 9. Cela inkxaso
• Ingcebiso kwabakhohlisiweyo
• 10. Qonda ukuba inxeba alinakuphola ngokupheleleyo
• Yintoni ethathwa njengokungathembeki emtshatweni?
• Wazi njani ukuba kukho ukungathembeki emtshatweni?
• Ungajongana njani nokungathembeki emtshatweni?
• Kwenzeka ntoni emva kokungathembeki emtshatweni?
• Ngokwebhayibhile: Uwubuyisela njani umtshato emva kokungathembeki?
• Umthandazo wokusindisa umtshato wam kwaye uxolele ukungathembeki
• Ngaba umtshato uyasebenza emva kokungathembeki okuninzi?
• Uqala njani kwakhona emva kokungathembeki?
• Ungakusinda njani ukungathembeki emtshatweni?
• Ngaba kunokubakho ukubuyiselwa komtshato emva kokukrexeza?
• Ndifanele ndimphathe njani umyeni wam emva kokungathembeki?
• Ungamphumelela njani umyeni wam emva kokuba endiqhathile?
• Ukubuyisela njani ubudlelwane emva kokungathembeki?
• Ngaba ungawufumana umtshato emva komonakalo ongaka?
• Ndingawubuyisa njani umtshato wam emva kokwahlukana?
• Unokonwaba njani emtshatweni emva kokungathembeki?
• Ungawubuyisela njani umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki?
• Kutheni ukungathembeki kwabasetyhini emtshatweni?
• Ungamenza njani umfazi wam athande kwakhona?
• Ndingalufumana njani uthando lomyeni wam?
• Umbuyisa njani umyeni wam xa enesithandwa?
• Kufuneka wenze ntoni emva kokungathembeki emtshatweni?
• Ungalulama njani emva kokungathembeki emtshatweni?
• Uwuphucula njani umtshato wam emva kokungathembeki?
• Iingcebiso zokubuyisa umtshato wam
• Ungawubuyisa njani umtshato emva kokwahlukana?
• Ungawubuyisa njani umtshato emva kokungathembeki?
• Uncedo ukugcina umtshato wam: amanyathelo amathathu okuwenza