Yintoni evumelekileyo kwibhedi yomtshato?
Umbhede womtshato wamaKristu . Ukusondelelana kungaphezulu kwesenzo somzimba. Ukusondelelana okuhle kukubonakalisa ubudlelwane obuhle. Kukuthweswa isithsaba sento elungileyo emtshatweni olungileyo. Ibhayibhile iyakwalela ukuba neentlobano zesini ngaphandle komtshato. Ukuba wonwabile neqabane lakho nakweyiphi na (isenzo sokulalana) kulungile, awunasono.
1) UBUMNANDI OBONWABILEYO BESIBINI
Oososayensi bezentlalo ngokubanzi bahlula ubomi kwezi ndawo zilandelayo ezisiphembelela ukuba siphile ubomi obulungeleleneyo:
· Ezentlalo
· Iimvakalelo
Ubukrelekrele
· Yokomoya
Emzimbeni
Indawo yendalo ikwabandakanya amava asondeleyo kwesi sibini.
Yintoni evumelekileyo kwibhedi yomtshato? Ukuthetha ngobomi obusondeleyo, abaninzi bacinga ukuba ukusondelelana yinto yonke emtshatweni. Abantu abaninzi balindele ukuba ubudlelwane obusondeleyo obusisiseko bube sisiseko somtshato olungileyo, kodwa akunjalo. Isichasi yinto elungileyo: ubudlelwane obuhle bomtshato sisiseko sobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Ukusondelelana sisipho esivela kuThixo sabantwana babo; Usidale ukuba sibe nolwalamano olusondeleyo.
IBhayibhile ithi: UAdam wamazi uEva umkakhe, wamitha wazala uKayin iGenesis 4: 1. Ukwazi kwiZibhalo eziNgcwele kuthetha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Kunokuqondwa ke ngoko ukuba nangona ithetha ngesenzo somzimba, le ndinyana ibhekisa kulwazi olubandakanya ukwabelana, ukuvumelana, nokuzityhila ngokupheleleyo omnye komnye.
Kukuzala okupheleleyo komanyano olusondeleyo. Ngoba? Kungenxa yokuba kubudlelwane obusondeleyo, bobabini abesilisa nabasetyhini, baxelelane okanye bafumanisane kunanini na ngaphambili, ukuze bakwazi ukunxibelelana kumanqanaba aphezulu obomi.
Ukwaneliseka okusondeleyo sisiphumo semvisiswano elawula kwezinye iindawo emtshatweni.
Kuphela kuxa esi sibini sifunde intsingiselo yothando lokwenene, xa bobabini besamkelana njengoko benjalo, xa besebenzisana nobugcisa bokuxabisana, xa befunda imigaqo-nkqubo yonxibelelwano olusebenzayo, xa bethatha iyantlukwano kunye nokukhetha kwabo, xa beziqhelanisa kubudlelwane obunyamezelanayo bentlonipho kunye nokuthembana, kulapho banokulindela ukufikelela kumava okwabelana ngokwabelana ngokwasemtshatweni.
UAlla Fromme ubhekisa kwisenzo sobudlelwane njenge Incoko yomzimba , Oko kuthetha ukuba umzimba kunye nobuntu baba babini badibana phakathi komtshato.
Ukuze kubekho uhlengahlengiso olusondeleyo, emva komtshato, kufanelekile ukuba kudlule ixesha. Oku kuyabakhathaza abantu abatshatileyo abaninzi ababecinga ukufikelela kwimvisiswano kwangoko. Olunye uphononongo lubonisa ukuba bangaphantsi kwama-50% abantu abatshatileyo abafumana ukwaneliseka ekuqaleni kobomi babo bomtshato.
Iindawo ezine zobudlelwane obubalulekileyo kulwaneliseko lobuhlobo
Imiba emine yobudlelwane enegalelo kulwalamano olusenyongweni
1 -Ubudlelwane bomlomo
Oku kubandakanya ukufunda ukwazi iqabane lakho ngencoko, ukuchitha ixesha kunye. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kubafazi abaninzi abahlala befuna ukunxibelelana ngakumbi namaqabane abo ngokusondelelana ngamazwi ngaphambi kokuba bonwabe kwisenzo somzimba.
2 - Ubudlelwane beemvakalelo
Ukwabelana ngokwabelana ngeemvakalelo ezinzulu bubudlelwane beemvakalelo, obubalulekile kulwaneliseko lobuhlobo. Ngokukodwa kwabasetyhini, kuba baphendula ngcono kubudlelwane obusondeleyo xa lonke ulwalamano luvulekile kwaye luthando xa besiva ukuba abayeni babo bayaziqonda kwaye bayazixabisa iimvakalelo zabo.
3 - Ubudlelwane ngokwasemzimbeni
Xa ucinga malunga nobudlelwane ngokwasemzimbeni, zive ngakumbi malunga nokuthinta, ukuphulula, ukwanga, ukwanga kunye nothando. Uhlobo oluchanekileyo lokunxibelelana lukhupha ukuhamba okumnandi nokuphilisayo kwezinto zamachiza emzimbeni wabo bobabini abachukumisayo kwaye ngubani ochukumisiweyo. Esi sibini sifumana imali eninzi xa enye ifikelela kwenye indlela eyiyo.
4 - Ubudlelwane bokomoya
Ubudlelwane bokomoya bunokuba lelona nqanaba liphezulu lokusondelelana. Indoda nomfazi banokwazi omnye komnye xa bobabini besiya kuThixo kwaye bamazi ngokusuka entliziyweni ukuya entliziyweni. Ukusondelelana ngokomoya kunokufunyanwa xa isibini sithandaza kunye; Banqula kunye kwaye baya rhoqo ecaweni kunye. Ubudlelwane bokomoya bubandakanya ukwazana kwimeko yokholo ekwabelwana ngalo.
Khumbula ukuba intsebenzo yokusondelelana inxulumene ngqo nayo yonke imimandla yeemvakalelo zethu. Ukuba bayaxabisana njengomntu kwaye ngovuyo, sihlangabezana neemfuno zemihla ngemihla kwezinye iinkalo zobomi; siya kuba nolwalamano olusondeleyo nolomeleleyo. Inqanaba apho sifumana ukwaneliseka kokusondelelana kungumqondiso wokuba sinxibelelana njani, sinomdla, sinyanisekile, sonwabile kwaye siziva sikhululekile omnye komnye.
Zombini,
Thatha ulwalamano olusondeleyo
Amadoda nabafazi ngokubanzi bayakuxabisa oku. Ukutshintsha kwesantya komeleza amava esi sibini.
Khathalela inkangeleko yakho
Iqabane lakho liya kuwuxabisa umzamo wakho wokutsala.
Bekela bucala ixesha elingakumbi lokonwaba kulwalamano olusondeleyo- Sukungxama. Yenza le ntlanganiso ibe ngumzuzu obalaseleyo kuwe.
Nika ingqalelo imeko-bume
Kufuneka kubekho into eyimfihlo kuba akukho mntu kufuneka aphazamise loo mzuzu. Indawo kufuneka ilungiswe ngeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo ukuze ibonelele ngokudibana okubalaseleyo (umculo othambileyo, izibane eziphantsi, ibhedi elungiswe kakuhle, umoya ococekileyo); Yonke into ibalulekile.
Veza iminqweno yakho
Sebenzisa amagama anje: Ndiyakuthanda, ndiyakudinga, ndiyaphambana ngawe, Umhle, ndingakuphinda nditshate. La magama anamandla amakhulu okuvuselela. Xelela iqabane lakho rhoqo la magama kwaye ulibonise indlela othanda ngayo ukuba kunye naye.
Ukuphindaphindwa kwemisebenzi yokusondelelana
Izinga lokusondelana lixhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi ezinje ngeminyaka, impilo, uxinzelelo kwezentlalo, umsebenzi, iimeko zeemvakalelo, ukukwazi ukunxibelelana ngemicimbi enxulumene nokusondelelana, njl.
Esi sibini sinye ekufuneka sigqibe ngokweemeko zabo, ukuba angadibana kangaphi ngokusondeleyo. Oku kunokwahluka kwizibini ezitshatileyo, ukusuka kwimeko ukuya kwimeko, nangamaxesha ngamaxesha.
Akukho namnye kubo omele anyanzele omnye ukuba enze into engafunwayo ngomnye, kuba uthando alunyanzeli, kodwa luyahlonipha. Khumbula ukuba ukwabelana ngesondo sisenzo sasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo nangokomoya.
KUPHELA KWABAFAZI
Qonda intswelo yakhe yokusondelelana
Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho ufuna ukunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo nomyeni wakho nokuba zine iindawo zobudlelwane obusele zihlalutyiwe azikho kwindawo efanelekileyo. Ngesi sizathu, musa ukuzibandeza eli thuba ukuba uziva ngathi iimfuno zakho azifezekiswanga.
Sukuyibandeza indoda yakho uyolo lokunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo nawe
Ngamanye amaxesha, abafazi abangakhange bahlangane neemfuno zabo okanye iimbono zabo aziphindiswanga, baziva benelungelo lokuwohlwaya abayeni babo, ukunqanda, ukwala ukuba neentlobano zesini kunye. Khumbula ukuba unokuba negalelo kumgama phakathi kwakho, ukupholisa, kunye nokophula ubudlelwane.
Umfazi akanagunya kowakhe umzimba, yindoda enalo; Nendoda ayinagunya kowayo umzimba, ngumfazi onalo. Musa ukukhanyela omnye nomnye, ngaphandle kokuba ixesha elithile livumelene, ukuba nithandaze ngokuzolileyo; kwaye nibuye kunye, ukuze uSathana anganihendi ngenxa yokungakwazi kwakho ukuzibamba. I KwabaseKorinte 7: 4,5.
Fumanisa ukuba uthanda ntoni
Indoda iyangcangcazela xa inkosikazi yayo imbuza ukuba ifuna ntoni malunga nolwalamano olusenyongweni kwaye izama ukumanelisa. Oku akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uvule isandla sakho okanye esakho isigwebo sezenzo zobuhlobo ocinga ukuba ziyacaphukisa kuba kukho imida kulwalamano olusenyongweni emtshatweni. Kodwa ungalibali ukuba unokwenza izinto ezininzi ezicingelwa ngumyeni wakho engqondweni yakhe onokumnika zona kwaye wonwabe yile.
Zazise ngendlela esondeleleneyo
Sebenzisa la mathuba omlingo xa uthatha ibhafu yokuphumla, unxibe into eshushu, usasaze isiqholo esincinci ngeenxa zonke, unciphise ukukhanya kwigumbi, ubeke umculo wothando, ngokufutshane, ulungiselele indawo yomzuzwana okhethekileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo nomyeni wakho uya kuziva mnandi njengawe. Le yindlela yokufaka igalelo ukuze kubekho iintlobo ngeentlobo, eziluncedo kakhulu kwaye ezisempilweni kubomi obusondeleyo.
Sihlala sithetha malunga neentlobano zesini njengokwenza uthando. Ukuthetha ngokungqongqo, oku akuyonyaniso. Ukudibana kwemizimba emibini akunakwenza uthando. Ingabonisa kuphela kwaye ityebise uthando osele lukhona. Kwaye umgangatho wamava uya kuxhomekeka kumgangatho wothando ochazwe kuDavid R Mace kwincwadi yakhe ethi Who God United.
Umtshato ubekekile kuwo wonke umntu, nesilili masingabi nasiphako; ke abenza umbulo nabakrexezi, uThixo uya kubagweba kumaHebhere 13: 4.
Abo bazibiza ngokuba bangamaKristu akufuneki bangene kubudlelwane bomtshato de umcimbi lowo uthathelwe ingqalelo ngocoselelo, ngomthandazo, kunye nembono ephezulu, ukubona ukuba ngaba umanyano olunje lunokumzukisa na uThixo. Emva koko, kufuneka banike ingqwalaselo efanelekileyo kwisiphumo selungelo ngalinye kubudlelwane bomtshato; kwaye umgaqo-siseko ungcwalisiwe kufuneka ube sisiseko saso sonke isenzo.- RH, Septemba 19, 1899.
KUPHELA KWAMADODA
Yiba nothando- Abafazi bayathanda ukuziva bethandwa, bexatyisiwe, benconywa, kwaye bekhutshiwe. Iintyatyambo, amakhadi, amanqaku, okanye isipho esincinci sinokuvelisa isiphumo esimangalisayo. Khumbula ukuba ukuba ufuna ukuba nolwalamano olusenyongweni nomfazi wakho ebusuku, ukulungiswa kuya kuqala ngeeyure zokuqala zosuku. Musa ukulibala nokuba abantu basetyhini batsalelekile kwinto abayivayo.
Musa ukungxama
Awuyi kuphulukana nantoni na ukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi uchukumisa, ugona, kwaye uphulula umfazi wakho. Mbuze ukuba uthanda ukuba uchukunyiswe phi kwaye njani kwaye abe novakalelo kwiimfuno zakhe. Khumbula ukuqhagamshelana naye ngokukhululekileyo nge-caresses ezingakhokeleli kubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Mncome, mxelele ukuba umfuna kangakanani, kwaye mwole ngokukhawuleza.
Yiba nolwalamano
Andithethi ngale nto ukuba kufuneka ube nomzimba osebenze kakuhle. Ndiyathetha ukuba ndicocekile, ndinuka kamnandi, ndichebe iindevu (abanye abantu basetyhini abazithandi iindevu), kunye ne-cologne, amashiti amatsha ebhedini, kunye nomculo othambileyo wothando ngasemva.
Gxila ekwaneliseni umfazi wakho
Khumbula ukuba ukhuthazwa yinto oyibonayo, kwaye ngokuzenzekelayo, ulungele ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Indoda ifana nomlilo wegesi, kungekudala iyatshisa, ngelixa umfazi efana nomlilo weenkuni, kuthatha ixesha elingaphezulu, ukuya kuthi ga kwimizuzu engama-40. Ke ngoko linda ade akunike umqondiso wokuba wonwabile kakhulu ukuze ngokudibeneyo, banokufikelela kwi-orgasm.
Sihlala sithetha malunga neentlobano zesini njengokwenza uthando. Ukuthetha ngokungqongqo, oku akuyonyaniso. Ukudibana kwemizimba emibini akunakwenza uthando. Ingabonisa kuphela kwaye ityebise uthando osele lukhona. Kumgangatho wamava kuya kuxhomekeka kumgangatho wothando olubonakalisiweyo, uDavid R Mace kwincwadi yakhe ethi Who God United.
Umtshato uhloniphekile kubo bonke, kunye nebhedi engenasiphako kumaHebhere 13: 4.
Iziqulatho
- Yintoni evumelekileyo kwibhedi yomtshato?
- Iindawo ezine zobudlelwane obubalulekileyo kulwaneliseko lobuhlobo
- 1 -Ubudlelwane bomlomo
- 2 - Ubudlelwane beemvakalelo
- 3 - Ubudlelwane ngokwasemzimbeni
- 4 - Ubudlelwane bokomoya
- Zombini,
- Thatha ulwalamano olusondeleyo
- Khathalela inkangeleko yakho
- Nika ingqalelo imeko-bume
- Veza iminqweno yakho
- Ukuphindaphindwa kwemisebenzi yokusondelelana
- KUPHELA KWABAFAZI
- Qonda intswelo yakhe yokusondelelana
- Sukuyibandeza indoda yakho uyolo lokunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo nawe
- Khangela into ayithandayo
- Zazise ngendlela esondeleleneyo
- KUPHELA KWAMADODA
- Musa ukungxama
- Yiba nolwalamano
- Gxila ekwaneliseni umfazi wakho